If we also talk of "disappearance of European identity," we have been accused by those who are still in the field of animal protection for biodiversity, cultural racism, how to preserve the identity of a people, how much learned in the course of countless historical, human, cultural, religious, political and economic events, would mean rejecting all that is found in the cultures of others.

There are those who, perhaps the majority of us, are now convinced that the least number of children must, in total terms, rely on purely material reasons such as low labor, inconsistent high and certain incomes, unacceptable tax burden most of all, with equal income, on those who have to share it on a large family, and finally the almost total lack of social support for those who decide to form a family. If we considered the material and social conditions in which children were once brought into the world, doing all sorts of personal sacrifice, we should soon have serious doubts about such reductive statements.

It should also be considered to be a small group of families based on marriage, that is, on a stable bond, assumed as a public-social commitment, and which among the founding elements still has to put children into the world; the consumed separation of the sexual act from reproduction, the increasingly weak individual responsibility in the couple's ties, based on the most mutilative, taken for granted, of human elements: feeling; and the charm that exercises, both singles and couples, a life without institutionalized bonds and without the prospect of children.

To be firmly bound up, to take on the commitment of mutual support dictated not only by the passion of passion, and the generation of children is a decision that involves the whole horizon of a sense of life and, therefore, the existential vision of a couple. In modern Western society, the reason for a life, fulfilling in itself and per se, seems to be pursuable, achievable here and now, regardless of the presence of only one partner and the offspring.

That being said, it is also true that as in these years in the West, such a rhetorical rush to maternity / paternity is found. How to explain this apparent paradox? It is true that spasmodic attention is paid to children both by parents and society, but it is no less true that children prefer an ever more free life, each day a different and more stimulating role, up to risk of anesthetizing the same senses for too much motion. Rather than completely rejecting the prospect of having children, a statistically increasing option, today's society seeks a compromise, a balance between individual aspirations, aimed at drinking the rich glass of modern life and maternity / paternity that is, a look beyond my own Eyes, not of objects and sensations that pass, but of another ego that pushes us out of the asphyxial world of ourselves. This research is embodied in the "single child model" to be at an advanced age. How to say that the push to achieve the desires and ambitions that the children and the family have, especially the roaring years of youth, does not necessarily support an entire life. So the most biologically fit age for reproduction is the least exploited, pregnancies become more complicated and infertility / impotence increases when children are desired.

Even love for their children has become so limited, in a society whose children are rarefied, it is often so exclusive that struggling to turn into love for the world of children in general and too often is stained with selfishness. Anxious sentimental and affective attention, focused on that one child to be defended and covered with tools and material opportunities to face the competitive sea of ​​life. Too many are the children who come out of the insecure nest, with no sense of responsibility, rich in knowledge and emotions, at best, but poor in the only vital treasure vital to life, a shiny intellect and a strong will.

In this horizon, one understands the importance of the last work of Dr. Giuseppe Brienza, not an abstract enunciation of principles, but a testimony of gathering and offering. An Agile and Precious Booklet This Philosophy of Life in the Servants of God Licia and Settimio Manelli [Giuliano Ladolfi Publisher, Borgomanero (Novara) 2017, pp. 70, € 10] that, without pretending to exhaust the subject, is to indicate a way that was realized by the Servants of God, Licia (1907-2004) and Settimio Manelli (1886-1978), an example of human and Christian virtues.

The Manelli Family, belonging to the middle class, saw, in fact, the birth of 21 children, 45 grandchildren and 84 great-grandchildren! Since the engagement, the Manelli are a sign of integral association, not the experiment of reciprocal use of the lowest instincts and of blind and changing sentimentality, but preparation for a full union between a man and a woman: " A short, intense, chaste, noble, loving and high-to-to-be engagement. A pure and holy engagement, beautiful as the "light of the dawn on the way" [...] that brings the sun of the Sacrament Wedding "(page 17).

A full union, then, prepared wisely and open to the innumerable riches that married and parental life can offer us if faced with joyful sacrifice.