There are those who, perhaps most of us, is now convinced that the fewer children should be attributed, in an almost total, purely material reasons such as the lack of jobs, incomes not high enough and confident, the unacceptable tax pressure more, in the same income of those who have to share it on a large household, and finally, the almost total lack of social support to those who decide to start a family. If we we considered the material and social conditions, in which a time to put children into the world, making every kind of personal sacrifice, we should immediately nurture strong doubts about such reductive statements.
It would be appropriate to also consider the establishment of small family based on marriage, that is, on a stable bond, taken as a public-social commitment, and that among the basic elements still has to bring children into the world; the consumed separation of the sexual act from reproduction, becoming weaker individual responsibility in pair bonds, based on the more changeable, taken by itself, the human elements: the feeling; and its appeal, especially on single as on couples, a life without institutionalized linkages and without the prospect of their children.
Bind firmly, make a commitment of mutual support dictated not only by the fervor of passion, and the generation of children is decision that involves the entire horizon of meaning of life and, therefore, the existential vision of a couple. In modern Western society the reason for a life, fulfilling in and of itself, seems viable, achievable here and now, regardless of the presence of only one partner and offspring.
That said, it is also true that never before in recent years in the West it is found that a rhetorical momentum toward motherhood / fatherhood. How to explain this apparent paradox? It is true that we find spasmodic attention to the children, much to their parents because of the company but it is no less true that the children you prefer a more free life, every day a different and more challenging role, to risk of anesthetizing the same directions to bike too. More than the totally reject the prospect of having children, statistically increasing option, today's society looking for a balance, a balance between individual aspirations, sometimes to drink to the dregs the cup full of modern life and motherhood / fatherhood , ie, a look beyond one's self in search not of objects and sensations that pass, but on another I who push us to leave the world of suffocating ourselves. This research led to "one-child" model to occur in old age. To say that the drive to make their desires and ambitions which ignore the children and the family, especially after the roaring years of youth, it does not necessarily support a lifetime. And so the most biologically adapted to the reproduction age it is the least exploited, pregnancies are more complicated and infertility / impotence increases when you would like the children.
Even love for their children has become so limited, in a society whose children are rarefied, is often so exclusive that hard to turn into love for the world of children in general and too often colors of selfishness. Attention sentimental and emotional eager, focused on that one son to defend and hold tools and materials ability to deal with competitive sea of life. Too many children are coming out of the nest insecure, with no sense of responsibility, rich in ideas and emotions, at best, poor but the only essential treasure for life, a lucid mind and a strong will.
In this horizon it is easy to understand the importance of the last work of Dr.. Giuseppe Brienza, not an abstract statement of principles, but a testimony collection and supply. An agile and this precious little book Philosophy of life in the servants of God and Licia Settimio Manelli [Giuliano Ladolfi Publisher, Borgomanero (Novara), 2017, pp. 70, € 10] that, without claiming the exhaust the subject, wants to point the way, the one built by the Servants of Dio Licia (1907-2004) and Settimio Manelli (1886-1978), an example of human and Christian virtues.
The family Manelli, belonging to the middle class, he saw, in fact, the birth of as many as 21 children, 45 grandchildren and 84 great-grandchildren! Since the engagement Manelli are a sign of full membership, not the experiment of mutual use of the lowest instincts and a blind and changing sentimentality, but preparation for full union among all a man and a whole woman, " A short and intense engagement, chaste and noble, lovable and elevated. A pure and holy engagement, as beautiful as the "light of dawn on the way" [...] that brings the sun Sacrament of Marriage "(p. 17).
Un’unione piena, dunque, preparata con saggezza ed aperta alle innumerevoli ricchezze che la vita coniugale-parentale è in grado di offrirci, se affrontata con gioioso sacrificio.